The bible says:  “Humble yourselves…”(1 Peter 5:6)  Well, that was easy, the Lord clearly tells us to humble ourselves. But, to be honest with you, it can be hard to see things like pride and control. However, it is clear that He wants us to act like Christ did. Christ humbled HIMSELF – He always took the lowest seat. (Philippians 2:8.) Sometimes we are so busy trying to feel good about ourselves, we forget about other people. One of the hardest things I have had to learn is that other people in this world do not OWE me anything, simply because my life was hard at the beginning.

Pride can easily remain hidden, perhaps we don’t always know we have it! Ask someone close to you, what they think about you on this subject. Hmmm… if that solution seems like a VERY bad idea, then there could definitely be pride somewhere. Pride often has to be right. I have observed that sometimes behind pride is the desire for a certain outcome – the feeling that I know more than you do, so I should be in charge. And that sometimes comes from a fear of everything being out of control. 

One of the biggest dangers we face in Christianity is that we find fault in others very quickly. Other people might call that good judgment, but I call it distraction. EG: “If you are to blame then I am OK.” True humility looks at itself first. Most Christians know enough to have the appearance of humility, but the Lord looks at our hearts. Unfortunately we can also easily rationalise things instead of acknowledging them and dealing with them, together with any underlying causes. Here’s a neat trick I’ve learnt, if I can see it in others, then I am probably doing the same thing myself. I’ve learnt to deal with myself first. Logs and specks!

I exhort everyone reading here to learn to be utterly truthful about who they are and where they are spiritually. Because of what Jesus did for us, we don’t have to be afraid of our faults. Our real problem might easily be our lack in faith in what He already did. However, His punishment on our behalf does not give us permission to stay that way. Fudging the truth is fooling yourself. First we need to own up, and then we must make it clear to the Lord that even though we really don’t want to do what He wants us to do about that stinky stuff in the corners of our minds… we will do it anyway… just because HE asked us to.  (Matthew 21:29-31) Ask Him for His help – He knows the way through anything. 

Then, confess your fault to someone else. BTW, I am not talking about telling someone else that we’ve always hated Brother Bob or our mother, brother auntie etc because they drive us crazy. How can info like that “be good, right and profitable?” That kind of sin is ours not theirs. When people annoy us or step on our feet on way or another, that means that we have been given an opportunity to pray and ask the Lord to show us what is going on. Perhaps we need to go to someone we trust and tell them about our issues – and confess our fault that way. At the same time we need to start blessing the person that we don’t like … Yeah! … I know! YOU don’t hate anyone!!  Me neither. 😂 We just use words like ‘irritate, and annoy’ instead … it sounds soooo much nicer. 

Serving others is a way to humble yourself. Especially if you serve the person who is provoking you. Some people are a gift. There is nothing that will show us more plainly what is actually in our heart, than blessing someone we don’t like! It sorts out dislike from just plain hatred and spite, plus it throws all the excuses in the bin … where they belong. We all sin and there are no bigger sins or smaller ones. Anything that offends the holiness of our God is sin. We need to remind ourselves that pride will keep us from humility and transformation.

“Why, the very fact of your having lawsuits with one another at all is a defect (a defeat, an evidence of positive moral loss for you). Why not rather let yourselves suffer wrong and be deprived of what is your due? Why not rather be cheated (defrauded and robbed)?” 1 Corinthians 6:7. This verse, and many MANY others clearly show us what the Lord wants. He suffered wrong and He was totally perfect in all His ways, so why should we be an exception? If you find that you are making excuses for yourself and the way you relate to other people, especially those close to you – all the time – then you’ve misplaced humility and probably have a deeper issue. We follow the Lord Jesus now, and we all know that His road leads to the cross … That means when we follow Him we destined to end up dead!

It is extremely humbling to stand still in the light of Who He is, and see who you really are, and question your own thoughts about yourself. “But whoever lives by the truth comes into the light, so that it may be seen plainly that what they have done has been done in the sight of God.” John 3:21 NIV. He knows our hearts. We can pray: “Wash me, cleanse me, make me new” until we are purple. However, unless we personally do something about it – like humbling ourselves, admitting our faults, confessing our inadequacies to others, we are fooling ourselves.

The only person who is responsible for the way I think and act is ME. Pride prevents us from growing, BUT, Humility positions us for transformation. 👋🏻