The real you

P3376 He takes us seriously- let’s take Him seriously too!  

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Colossians 3:1-4:“So if you’re serious about living this new resurrection life with Christ, ACT LIKE IT. Pursue the things over which Christ presides. Don’t shuffle along, eyes to the ground, absorbed with the things right in front of you. Look up, and be alert to what is going on around Christ—that’s where the action is. See things from His perspective. Your old life is dead. Your new life, which is your real life—even though invisible to spectators—is with Christ in God. He is your life. When Christ (your real life, remember) shows up again on this earth, you’ll show up, too—the real you, the glorious you. Meanwhile, be content with obscurity, like Christ.

I love it when the bible gives us such clear instructions – don’t you? Do this, don’t do that … be this, don’t be that. The best response is: Let Jesus preside over every little thing! When I decided to choose what I should bother the Lord about, I ended up not being able to figure out what was important and what was not – so, in the end, I just gave everything to Him! I recommend dragging your eyes, ears and heart away from the demands, the yammering and hammering that invades everything, day after day. The enemy wants to use those things: the problems, the trials, the time wasting stuff, to exhaust us. he wants to make us too tired to give Jesus our all. 

I decided today was a good day to take a few minutes to notice and remember the things that Jesus Himself found important. Strangely enough — buying things we don’t need, focussing on the things we can’t change, even stuff like being entertained — isn’t on that list. Yet, in the middle of what we might call “ministry” the Lord Jesus still managed to enjoy other people’s company, plus He was not against people enjoying themselves either. I think He loves to be around US. 

From around the time when I was born, mankind seems to have gone rapidly downhill … I do hope that wasn’t me! 😂 Nah! I’m not that important or powerful – I can barely put my shoes on! Sadly, mankind seems to be treasuring transitory things, or situations, far above other people. Let’s face it, even money – no matter how much you have or don’t have – comes and goes very quickly! And other things like applause or acclaim can change on a whim. Almighty God put Himself into an obscure little Jewish family, in a tiny little town. He was  known by His parent’s names, and where He currently lived or where He was born. 

The bible tells us the Lord knew He had been sent here by His Heavenly Father — but that fact was never used to create notoriety or generate success. Especially the kind of stuff this world thinks of as success. Jesus always had the ability to do the things we call miraculous, but He valued His Father’s opinion and timing far above His own. For the last 40 months of His life, our Lord was far too busy demonstrating God’s love to others, to be at all concerned about what this world thought of Him. He knew what was really in mankind’s heart was unstable.

God’s book gives us the very things we need to hold onto and take seriously. However, this world will continue to bombard us with all kinds of motivation to be distracted from the very reason we are all still here. To serve Him!! Philippians 4:8 tells us: “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”

To live like that we may have to drag ourselves away from the 91st episode of some soapie, series, or some fabulous sport or other. Meanwhile – the church is chasing rainbows and trying to remain politically correct – and too many human beings are falling off the edge into hell! Jesus wasn’t rich. The only things Jesus left behind Him were the clothes He was wearing. And people still managed to fight over His tunic! Here’s something to chew on from Luke 12:27-31:

“Consider the lilies and wildflowers, how they grow [in the open field]. They neither labor nor spin [wool to make clothing]; yet I tell you, not even Solomon in all his glory and splendour dressed himself like one of these.  But if this is how God clothes the grass which is in the field today and tomorrow is thrown into the furnace, how much more will He clothe you? You of little faith! So as for you, do not seek what you will eat and what you will drink; nor have an anxious and unsettled mind. For all the [pagan] nations of the world greedily seek these things; and your [heavenly] Father [already] knows that you need them. But [strive for and actively] seek His kingdom, and these things will be given to you as well.”

Yeah, I know! Bring that up! However, it’s great advice, and it can be necessary for calming an unsettled, distracted mind, as the world around us descends into ME first. It is time to ask yourself: “What am I chasing after today?” Sometimes we fume and fret, and waste our God-given time running after the very things we cannot change. The bible instructs us about how we can fight this trend, we need to chase His kingdom … Let’s think about how incredibly expensive our lives are to God and spend them chasing Him instead. Let’s take His Way of life seriously. Bye.👋

P 3054 Opting out.

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Do you ever want to go back to bed, and hide under the covers? I get like that occasionally too. When I was working, eons ago, back in the ark, there were no ‘doona days.’  You were sick or you were there! Mental health did not rate a mention.

Recently I discovered that I have a previously unknown default position when it comes to pain, heartache, stress and strain. I’ve learnt that what seems to be normal day after day—may not actually BE normal! And what seems to be a part of who you think you are – may not be the real you after all! Sometimes we simply adapt our behaviour to fit in and cope with life’s difficulties. 

My mother died a week ago. She was 97, almost 98 years old. At the end she had cancer and awful pain. However, other people’s expectations of my response to this sad situation showed me that I apparently wasn’t grieving enough. Everybody I spoke to seemed to think I should be distraught and practically paralytic. They were, of course, being very sympathetic and kind at the same time, but I constantly felt like I was giving the wrong response to their sad, empathetic faces.

So I got stuck between their expectations, and my own reactions. In those moments I was incredibly grateful for all the intercessory prayer that came my way  … but, to be honest, I simply wanted everything about it all to just go away! Yesterday, the Lord Himself helped me, and I want to share here what I’ve learned from Him — in case somebody else finds my little story resonates with them.

I’ve learnt no matter how hard we try, we can all get stuck. Maybe you may have been stuck in something that put a ceiling on your growth because you’ve labelled some things as too hard. I know I’ve done that! My ‘ceiling’ kept telling me how much I could manage … then my own judgement of myself kicked in, and pointed out that anything over and above that, was just “too much and too hard.“

I’ve been in the land of ‘too much ’ for a week or so, since she died. But then a very sweet palliative care lady took the time to explain to me that there is no right way to grieve. We are all individuals and what seems right to me may not be right for you. Everybody’s got a story… What this lady said was such a relief!! Sometimes my own ideas of right and wrong, seem to overpower whatever the Lord is saying to me, and the result is I zone out and become deaf spiritually. However, the Holy Spirit has been incredibly gracious, He persevered with me.

The Lord gave mum and I two very sweet years at the end of her life, when I was able to tell her sincerely that I dearly loved her, and she returned that affection very vocally toward hubby and I. What a blessing that was! The more I talked to the Holy Spirit, the more I realised that He had helped me complete everything He wanted me to do for her.

It can be hard to cope when your sole parent is the most difficult person in your life, simply because you are very different people. During these last days, we forgave each other, and we also had fun and laughed together. So the reason I wasn’t weeping all the time, was that I had nothing to cry about, our situation had been turned around, and … praise God, I know where she is now! 

Hubby and I spent a lot of time talking to her about the Lord and how much He loves her. Although she is no longer here with us, something I had longed to see for 52 years, had finally happened. I’d been praying and hoping that my mother and I would both get to a new place at the same time! The Holy Spirit wonderfully answered me, and He did it all without any help from me! 

I know a happy ending may not occur for everyone, but today I wanted to share that there are also times that it can. I want to pass on the hope that even seemingly impossible situations can be turned around. Our God has a plan. We don’t always understand what He is doing, because our eyes have been dimmed by the sorrow and suffering of this world.

Opting out of dealing with difficult things means we are left with unanswered questions, and He is much too kind and loving, to want us to live with the terrible pain of loss, and things being unsaid, and unresolved. The land of regret is a terrible place. He knows the right moment for you and your loved one to reconcile. Bye. 🙌

“To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:..” Ecclesiastes 3:1a.