Bearing with one another in love

P 2707 Somebody’s been at the Kool-aid again!

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Have you ever heard someone prophesy in church, or had somebody give you a word and you thought: ’huh??’  Well that was a bit weird?’ At this point you may be tempted to run around yelling: ‘That person has their marbles scrambled – fruit-loop alert!’  Don’t do it … don’t do it …don’t do it! Resist the temptation. You might learn something,God taught one guy with a talking donkey, and Jesus taught His disciples with a tree! Now at this point a religious person could observe: ‘Of course when we act like that, that’s judgment.’ Oh right… thanks for your input! 🙄

I’ve asked the Lord once, about whatever it was that someone else said that sounded off to me, and He replied: “What’s that got to do with you? Your part is to follow Me.” Well, there’s me in my box with the lid nailed on. There are times when somebody who says they are listening to the Holy Spirit can get it wrong.They stand up and announce that the end of the world will be the last Friday of this month, and that Friday comes and goes … and!!!  … Nuthin’ happening here…!  Then people can start avoiding that person like they have the plague. Here’s a thought maybe we could let them learn from their own mistakes? We all make them!

We simply must refrain from slicing and dicing people with gossip and judgment etc., we need to repent, and ask for the Holy Spirit’s insight instead.  Why? Because even though someone’s word was not accurate, we can still learn something. Maybe the thing we can learn is this: it is not the height of wickedness to get a message scrambled, or to ‘hear’ the wrong morse code!  As a group we can become so lazy and put such pressure on other people to be ‘the mouth of God! We even do it to our pastors. These are human beings right? They put their pants on one leg at a time like you do!

The pressure to be always right and ‘speak for God’ is too big for one person.”Two or three prophets should speak, and the others should weigh carefully what is said.” 1 Corinthians 14:29. At the same time, we don’t have to go home and pack our bags, and make sure our wills are in order — just because Brother So-and-so announced the sky is falling. Ask the Lord – what’s in that for me to learn? Then quietly move on. Plus … try not to peer at the sky all day on that Friday!! 😳

Meanwhile, my take-away from what Brother So and so said is …“LIVE READY.” That way I’m learning to walk with Jesus and ready at any given moment. That’s in the book. Now if, by chance, that prophetic brother keeps on revising the date of the apocalypse – then PRAY FOR HIM. He obviously ate something that has disagreed with him. or maybe he has drunk too much Kool-aid! That can happen to all of us. That’s why unity is more important than being right. Sorting out that lost lamb is a job for the pastor, or an elder. You and I should just keep on praying for them.

Hubby and I have very different ministry gifts that enhance one another, and I am in awe at what God does with his obedience. I often watch him as the Lord works out His plans through him. Some of the time what hubby says to other people is like a bridge way-too-far-away for me. He’s so bold. I’d probably pussy-foot about and then say not very much of anything. I talked to the Lord about it and He kindly explained to me that my husband is His servant first. Well, that resolved that conflict! When Almighty God puts dibs on someone it goes straight into none-of-my-business basket. I learnt that skill the hard way. 

But what if hubby were actually wrong and his leading is inaccurate? Here’s what I’ve learnt. At times like that I can put my faith in God to redeem and transform whatever is going on for His glory. I’m no longer looking to be a smartie-pants who is always right, now I am looking for the Lord’s outcome. At the same time that doesn’t mean I can’t speak to hubby about it, lovingly. ‘…or how can two walk together unless they are in agreement?’ For the sake of unity we will need to come to a place mutually where we leave things to the Lord to sort us both out. Even if I am positive that I am right, a wrong attitude can discount love.

The bible says this is what love does — it suffers long. It believes all things, it hopes all things, it is not rude and … love can’t fail! If we choose to stand in love then we are putting ourselves on the Lord’s side. We need eyes filled with His love to see Him working. Our human POV won’t be enough, it is tainted by our own theological opinions. My point today is this – the only person who is right all the time is the Lord! The rest of us mostly muddle about.

We may find there are times when some poor soul has been at the Kool-aid – be kind. Maybe they are desperate to be heard. Whatever the reason – Almighty God is bigger than their mistakes – Jesus died to pay for their sins and errors too. Let’s practice “bearing with one another in love.” Otherwise we can end up even wrong-er than Brother So- and-so. Bye 👋

P 2280 Have you ever had one of those…

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…days, weeks, months … years? Yeah us too. I had an argument with our stairs …and lost!  I fractured my right humerus by breaking the head of that bone clean off and fracturing it to boot – I’ve found out that it may be called a humerus, but there ain’t nothing funny about it. 🤪 Meanwhile we are not sleeping all that well at our house. My accidental trip UP the stairs ‘doth murder sleep!’ (Macbeth) Yeah, I know it is traditional to fall downstairs – I am a non-conformist!

The pain meds I have to take have started to produce an odd side effect. With the onslaught of nightfall I begin to twitch – a sight to behold. I know, ew! What a ghastly thought! Restless legs I believe it’s called. Have you ever watched a cat that is watching something else moving? The tip of their tail twitches from side to side. Well that kind of strange little pantomime is taking place at our house at bedtime. I settle down to sleep, so does hubby, then my legs give an involuntary twitch and bingo bongo, I’m wide awake again. So, BTW is my poor dead tired hubby! It is never boring at our house.

Lemme tell you, when we are often least equipped to do it, we can really give the whole ‘ˆbearing with one another in love’ biblical instruction a huge work out. This twitching stuff goes on for hours! Hubby is such a patient man. Those of you who have ever had to immobilise a limb for one reason or another, would also know that when it comes time to mobilise said limb again, it protests very loudly indeed.  Who knew that our limbs have a mind of their own? Not me!! 😳 It gives a whole new meaning to the old adage – use it or lose it.

My dear fella, who has a very sharp mind normally, is so brain fogged he is struggling to know what day it is. He is my full-time carer, and recently he has had to be a full-time nurse to me as well. And no! That is definitely not the same thing. All this stuff happened to me, the day after he just finished his hand rehab after his thumb operation. So there have been a number of times when we’ve both needed a full-time carer! Fortunately, our family has been incredibly kind and helpful. But at 2.00 am, sadly … they no longer live at our house. I bet they’re glad about that!

Fun fact: after nearly three weeks, everything we’ve needed to manage these injuries has started to migrate, all by itself … secretly … under cover of darkness, sneaking downstairs into the only room I can live in. Our bedroom. It’s a wee bit crowded, and it is kind of a pity the refrigerator and stove simply won’t fit, so they feel a bit left out! Our main bedroom is now like a game of tetris – hubby moves one bit to one side to fit in something else. You literally cannot go to the loo without moving something!

Over the years I’ve discovered my dear husband is a devoted ‘piler.’ He loves to pile various items in a heap, planning to take these things that need to go from one room to another, so he can cleverly take more than one thing at a time, thereby saving his energy. The other day, right after hubby said ‘hi’ to a nice lady who knocked at our door, he immediately started to throw things piled up near the front door out onto the porch. 

She was startled to say the least. Then he totally aced that ‘startled’ by chucking everything from the porch into our front yard! She kind of scurried about doing her job after that – maybe she thought she’d be next! 🤪 Just to reassure you, those items did eventually find their way into the rubbish/recycling bins later on that day. 

Breaking a limb can sort of have its funny side. I will skip over the part about taking a shower inside a plastic poncho, while washing your hair with one hand … well we were instructed not to get the sling wet! Who knows why – maybe the sling will dissolve? Maybe I will?! 😳   Wrapping up your upper arm and shoulder in plastic is no mean feat – meanwhile water is a cunning substance, it finds any holes!  I shall quickly and quietly draw a curtain over all those thoughts, otherwise you might need to poke out your mind’s eye with a sharp stick!

To conclude this blog about things you should never have to do after you have fallen up stairs and bounced your way to the bottom – I will leave you with this final thought… “love bears all things, hopes all things … love never fails..” Just because life gets difficult that doesn’t mean we can skip the love part. But it sure does makes life interesting. Spare a thought for my dear beleaguered hubby who has chosen to love me through this fascinating chapter of our lives together. Bye from the bird with a broken wing! 👋🏻